Quietening the Inner Critic

As parents, we are often our own harshest critics.

That inner voice, the one that points out every perceived failure or mistake, can grow loud in the chaos of parenthood.

It tells us we’re not doing enough, not patient enough, not good enough. Sound familiar?

This inner critic often stems from our desire to do our best for our children.

We hold ourselves to impossible standards, measuring our worth against the rose tinted moments we see on social media or the expectations we "think" others have of us.

But here’s the truth ...

Parenting is messy, beautiful, and imperfect.

No one gets it “right” all the time, and that’s okay.

Children don’t need perfect parents - they need present, loving, and self-compassionate ones.

When you hear your inner critic raise it head, pause, and notice what it's saying.

Acknowledge the voice but don’t let it define you.

Then ask yourself ...

- Would I say this to a friend?
Imagine a friend sharing their struggles. Would you respond with harsh judgment, or would you offer them compassion and reassurance? Give yourself the same grace.

- Is this thought true?
Often, the inner critic exaggerates or distorts reality. Challenge its accuracy. For example, “I’m a terrible parent” can become, “I had a tough moment, but I’m trying my best, and that matters.”

- What’s the bigger picture?
Instead of focusing on one tough moment, consider your overall parenting journey. Are your kids safe, loved, and supported? That’s what truly counts.

Your emotional wellness isn’t just about you - it influences your family.

When you treat yourself with kindness, you model self-compassion for your children.

You show them it’s okay to be imperfect and that love doesn’t depend on performance.

These are invaluable life skills for them to take forward into adulthood.

Parenting will always come with challenges, but by quieting the inner critic and fostering self-compassion, you can create a more balanced, confident, and joyful experience for both you and your family.

Remember: You’re not perfect, and you don’t need to be.

You’re enough, just as you are.

If you’d like help quietening your inner critic, reach out and hit the button below to book your complimentary call. Let’s silence your inner voice and replace it with empowering meaningful narratives which will propel you into parenthood with confidence and compassion.